I should add that this wasn’t something that the gay men and women of Michigan asked for me to post on their behalf. I did’t receive a frantic call in the middle of the night from an anonymous member of the LGBTQ community, begging for me to issue a statement on their behalf. Still, though, I can’t help but think that, right now, a lot of gay couples across the state are being put in really uncomfortable positions by their friends, both gay and straight, who expect for them to run out and get married now that the Michigan ban on same-sex marriage has been found to be unconstitutional. Judging from Facebook, it’s as though every straight progressive in the state of Michigan has suddenly been transformed into a stereotypical Jewish mother, asking repeatedly, “So, when are you going to get married and give me some grandchildren?” Part of me thinks it’s only fair, as they’ve been able to avoid the constant badgering that those of us in unmarried straight unions have had to deal with for years, but I still feel bad for them, like they’re being put in a position where, unless they run out and get their forms todays, they have to publicly defend their decision. Hopefully this initial frenzy will only last for a week or so, and then things will return to normal, as legal same-sex ceremonies become more and more commonplace. In the meantime, though, I think we should all chill the fuck out just a little bit, and stop asking our gay and lesbian friends if we need to start having our suits and dresses cleaned for a ceremony this weekend.
A message from the gay men and women of Michigan
By Mark | March 22, 2014