A message from the gay men and women of Michigan


I should add that this wasn’t something that the gay men and women of Michigan asked for me to post on their behalf. I did’t receive a frantic call in the middle of the night from an anonymous member of the LGBTQ community, begging for me to issue a statement on their behalf. Still, though, I can’t help but think that, right now, a lot of gay couples across the state are being put in really uncomfortable positions by their friends, both gay and straight, who expect for them to run out and get married now that the Michigan ban on same-sex marriage has been found to be unconstitutional. Judging from Facebook, it’s as though every straight progressive in the state of Michigan has suddenly been transformed into a stereotypical Jewish mother, asking repeatedly, “So, when are you going to get married and give me some grandchildren?” Part of me thinks it’s only fair, as they’ve been able to avoid the constant badgering that those of us in unmarried straight unions have had to deal with for years, but I still feel bad for them, like they’re being put in a position where, unless they run out and get their forms todays, they have to publicly defend their decision. Hopefully this initial frenzy will only last for a week or so, and then things will return to normal, as legal same-sex ceremonies become more and more commonplace. In the meantime, though, I think we should all chill the fuck out just a little bit, and stop asking our gay and lesbian friends if we need to start having our suits and dresses cleaned for a ceremony this weekend.

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  1. Opinion Bot
    Posted March 22, 2014 at 2:42 pm | Permalink

    All joking aside, I imagine that this will be a difficult time for many in committed gay and lesbian relationships, as I’m sure some will want to marry and some will not.

  2. Anonymous
    Posted March 22, 2014 at 2:50 pm | Permalink

    I think we should have forced gay marriage for the good of society.

  3. Taco Farts
    Posted March 22, 2014 at 4:36 pm | Permalink

    Newsflash: poor manners are equal opportunity annoyances. Brush it off or don’t, it won’t change anything.

  4. Posted March 22, 2014 at 4:59 pm | Permalink

    I am awaiting Yahweh’s revenge for all the gay marriage and abortion storms.

  5. Posted March 22, 2014 at 9:34 pm | Permalink

    As I’m sure you’ve heard by now, the 6th Circuit Court issued a “stay” of Judge Friedman’s ruling this evening, making same-sex marriage once again something that cannot lawfully be done. The following is from Washtenaw County Clerk Lawrence Kestenbaum,

    I should give up predicting what the 6th Circuit Court of Appeals will do — my track record so far is terrible.

    Long story short, late this afternoon, the 6th Circuit issued a “stay” of Judge Friedman’s ruling on same-sex marriage in Michigan. That suspends the effect of the ruling, so that the prohibition on same-sex marriage comes back into effect.

    According to court documents, the stay is only until Wednesday, March 26. The plaintiffs are being given the opportunity to contest the stay, and I expect they will do so vigorously.

    It is a hopeful sign that the stay is time-limited instead of indefinite. However, it means that, on Monday and Tuesday, my office will not be able to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

    As I previously announced, we issued 74 licenses to same-sex couples this morning (Saturday).

    I await further word from the Court of Appeals.

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