10 years of wedded bliss

Come tomorrow, assuming something horrible doesn’t happen in the next few hours, Linette and I will have been married for 10 years. If I were a better husband, I would have planned for it. It crossed my mind today, while I was at work, that, if I were a good husband, I would have been taking secret piano lessons this past year, so that I could play Maybe I’m Amazed for Linette. Sappy, I know, but I like the image. It makes me happy. As it is, I’ll probably write a letter to her, telling her how much I love her. I should do that more often. We all probably should. Life is short, and those of us who are lucky enough to have found someone that we love, shouldn’t lose appreciation for just how amazing a thing that is. I try not to take it for granted. Which is hard sometimes, given the constant grind of daily life. But it really is remarkable that we met, and that, somehow, that little spark between us has stayed lit all this time. So many things could have gone wrong. But they didn’t. And I can’t imagine my life any other way. I don’t want to get sappy here, but I truly think that I’m one of the luckiest people in the world. Thanks to everyone along the way who made it possible.

Special thanks to Ward Tomich for booking a terrible noise band to play Ypsilanti’s Cross Street Station in 1992. If not for his courage, there would be no happy marriage, no Clementine, no Crimewave, no anything.


[This is the first photo that Clementine ever took of us. It was taken in Savannah a few years ago.]

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  1. Posted October 2, 2009 at 5:47 am | Permalink

    Awww you guys, congratulations!!!

  2. Suzie
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 6:24 am | Permalink

    I like that photo, too – and Clementine is in it too, her shadow.

  3. Posted October 2, 2009 at 7:37 am | Permalink

    Assuming nothing horrible happened last night, congratulations! :-)

  4. tommy
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 7:57 am | Permalink

    Congrats – maybe you can use your powerful position of being the 8th most influential liberal blog in Michigan and get Margo Timmins from the Cowboy Junkies to sing ‘Anniversary Song’ to the both of you! Love that song. If you haven’t heard it, give it a listen; can’t even read the lyrics without tearing up a bit.

  5. Jules
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:53 am | Permalink

    Congratulations, Mark (and Linette). As far as grand gestures go, Mark, eh, they’re overrated. How we treat each other, day to day, is what really matters. Here’s to keeping the spark alive!

  6. Ed
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 9:03 am | Permalink

    I can’t remember… Is the 10th anniversary traditionally rock, paper or scissors?

  7. imatucky
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:49 am | Permalink

    Lucky Clementine, born into a loving home. What more can you give a child. Congratulations.

  8. Burt Reynolds
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 11:29 am | Permalink

    Congrats Mark. On a side note, I’ve always wanted to go to Savannah since reading “Midnight.” do you recommend it?

  9. Burt Reynolds
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 11:29 am | Permalink

    BTW, celebrated my two year anniversay on Tuesday. 10 sound like an eternity!

  10. Oliva
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:36 pm | Permalink

    I second what imatucky said. Lucky you two too. Here, a poem by Merwin about a birthday, but it seems right for an anniversary, in this case anyway:

    A Birthday

    Something continues and I don’t know what to call it
    though the language is full of suggestions
    in the way of language
    but they are all anonymous
    and it’s almost your birthday music next to my bones

    these nights we hear the horses running in the rain
    it stops and the moon comes out and we are still here
    the leaks in the roof go on dripping after the rain has passed
    smell of ginger flowers slips through the dark house
    down near the sea the slow heart of the beacon flashes

    the long way to you is still tied to me but it brought me to you
    I keep wanting to give you what is already yours
    it is the morning of the mornings together
    breath of summer oh my found one
    the sleep in the same current and each waking to you

    when I open my eyes you are what I wanted to see.

    –W. S. Merwin from Flower & Hand (Copper Canyon Press)

  11. Andy Ypsilanti
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    Congrats to you both, neighboors! A modern day Ypsi power couple…

  12. Dirtgrain
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 1:36 pm | Permalink

    I’m glad you found each other. You have a family to proud of.

  13. Gene
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 1:47 pm | Permalink

    Happy Anniversary!!

  14. Oliva
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 2:00 pm | Permalink

    The spaces within lines fell out of that poem, darn. Imagine the spaces?!

  15. Robert
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 2:18 pm | Permalink

    Happy Anniversary!

  16. Linda
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 2:24 pm | Permalink

    I am also glad you found each other. Happy Anniversary to our friends and neighbors

  17. TRD
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 2:50 pm | Permalink

    I like the idea very much that one little person saying “yes” to a band could have world-changing consequences. It gives me hope. If Clementine ever becomes President, there should be a Ward Tomich day.

  18. TRD
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 2:51 pm | Permalink

    And the guy who sold you the defective condom should get a holiday named after him, too.

  19. Kathy Waugh
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 3:18 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!!

  20. Jessica Jane
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 7:57 pm | Permalink

    I can’t help but think of Marry Song, by Band of Horses… Maybe you should sing that one to her!

    I’ll marry my lover in a place to admire.
    I don’t have to even ask her, I can look in her eyes
    And thank God that I am forgiven.
    I thank all of my friends
    who say I’ve been true…

  21. Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:16 pm | Permalink

    Ward apparently worked many wonders of which I was unaware. Congrats!

  22. Brackinald Achery
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 11:52 pm | Permalink

    Happy 10th!

  23. Posted October 3, 2009 at 4:16 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations! And Clementine is a pretty good photographer it looks like :)

  24. Kerri
    Posted October 8, 2009 at 11:04 pm | Permalink

    You two are so cute. Your whole little family makes me hopeful every time I see you, and I mean that.

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